Adulting 101
PENNING A PAINFUL TRIBUTE TO STARLET WAHU THE SOCIALITE.

Published
1 year agoon

I have not said a meaningful prayer in a long time but today, I did. I said a prayer for a friend as this morning social media was in a frenzy with the news of the demise of 24-year-old Starlet Wahu Mwangi. The tabloids have labeled her as Pastor Kanyari’s younger sister and Reverend Lucy’s daughter. It baffles me that a woman’s worth can only be determined in relation to a man. However hard it is to believe, Wahu was a woman of her caliber and she was enough. Not as someone’s daughter, sister or niece, or such relation.

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On the 3rd of January, this year, Wahu and her assailant, John Matara, walked into the Pavilion apartments in South B to check into an Airbnb. Hours later, John Matara walked out alone wearing bloody clothes and this raised an alarm for the watchman who immediately called the police who responded within no time and found the door to the apartment number ‘Y32’ locked from the outside. They gained access to the room and found Wahu’s lifeless body in the sitting room. In what was a very bloody crime scene, the police found condoms, an HIV test kit, marijuana blunts, alcohol, etc. Wahu’s body, found nude, also had stab wounds. It goes without saying that it was a sexual encounter gone awry.
Detectives were able to trace John Matara’s location to Mbagathi Hospital, where he was undergoing treatment for an apparent stab wound. Women have come forward since the story broke to talk about their own near-death experiences at the hands of Matara. It is alleged that this is Mr. Matara’s MO (modus operandi). He targets the young girls through dating sites, lures them out, has them take an HIV test, they then engage in sexual intercourse and then he asks for money from the girls under coercion.
My two cents, about all of this are as follows. I knew Wahu from our days at the University of Nairobi and we all wanted to be like her. It is easy to look at someone’s lifestyle and judge them based on appearances and this is what we did. With a little more time, I learned that Wahu comes from a well-off family. She also had her own business, Luxe, which is a testament to her need to work for her money.
Social media has done nothing, if not speak ill of her. However little, or much I knew about her, I know that she was a girl with resilience. Regardless of what social media thinks, Wahu did not deserve to die in the gruesome manner that she did. She died a most horrific, and painful death.
You who are tempted to judge her harshly remember this, let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Rest in eternal glory, Starlet.
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Adulting 101
Emoji Users May Be More Emotionally Intelligent, Study Finds

Published
2 months agoon
December 15, 2024
Research reveals that individuals who frequently use emojis in their text conversations with friends and family tend to have a higher level of emotional intelligence.

These expressive icons may be more than just playful additions to messages—they can reflect a deeper connection with one’s feelings.
The study, conducted in the U.S., surveyed 320 participants about their backgrounds and messaging habits. Findings indicated that those confident in using emojis demonstrated a strong capacity for understanding and managing emotions. Interestingly, while women were more likely to use emojis, individuals who identified as anxious or private were less comfortable incorporating them into their communication.
Dr. Simon Dubé, a psychologist from the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, emphasized the significance of these digital tools in modern communication. “The way we interact during virtual conversations reveals more about ourselves than we might think,” he explained. “Emojis are not just smiley faces or heart icons—they are tools for conveying meaning and enhancing communication.”
According to Dr. Dubé, emojis play a vital role in bridging the gap created by the lack of non-verbal cues in virtual exchanges. “They meet the need for non-verbal support, helping to reduce uncertainty, adjust the tone, or increase the clarity of a message,” he noted.
This research highlights the evolving ways we adapt to digital communication, suggesting that emojis are more than simple decorations—they’re essential tools for emotional expression and connection in a text-driven world.

Do you feel like life’s throwing you one too many curveballs lately? Welcome to your quarter-life crisis—well, I wouldn’t call it that, more like a plot twist!

If you’re in your 20s or early 30s, chances are you’ve felt that unsettling mix of confusion, anxiety, and “What am I even doing with my life?” vibe. But hey, it’s not as grim as it seems. This phase, though overwhelming, is more of a growth spurt for your mind and soul.
Here’s How to Navigate this Rollercoaster with Style
1. Embrace the Chaos, Don’t Fight It
First off, let’s normalize the chaos. Life’s not a straight path, and the sooner you accept the zig-zags, the smoother your ride will be. Remember, everyone’s story is different, so don’t compare your journey to someone else’s Instagram highlight reel.
This period of uncertainty? It’s just the universe’s way of nudging you towards something bigger and better.
2. Reflect and Redirect
Feeling lost? That’s your cue to pause and reflect. Ask yourself the deep questions: What do I really want? What makes me happy? It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers right away.
Start small—maybe it’s time to pivot in your career, explore a new hobby, or even take a solo trip to clear your mind.
The goal is to redirect your energy towards what genuinely matters to you.
3. Surround Yourself with Positivity

Your vibe attracts your tribe, so keep it positive. Hang out with people who uplift you, not those who drain your energy. And don’t forget to celebrate the small wins—whether it’s finally nailing that work project or just getting out of bed when you didn’t feel like it. Positivity breeds more positivity, and that’s what you need right now.
4. Trust the Process
Trust me, everything you’re going through is preparing you for something amazing. You might not see it now, but hindsight’s 20/20, right? So, trust the process and keep moving forward, even if it’s just one baby step at a time. Your plot twist? It’s leading to a grand finale that’ll be worth the wait.
A quarter-life crisis isn’t the end of the world; it’s just a chapter in your story. Embrace the uncertainties, learn from them, and use this time to craft a life that’s true to who you are. After all, you’re the author of your own story and this plot twist? It’s just the beginning of something epic.

Adulting 101
Career Hopping: The Emotional Cost of Constant Reinvention

Published
6 months agoon
August 14, 2024
Remember the days when people would stick to one job for life? Yeah, that’s a distant memory for most of us. These days, switching careers every few years seems to be the norm, especially among millennials and Gen Z. It’s exciting, keeps things fresh, and opens up new opportunities. But beneath the surface, career hopping can take an emotional toll that’s often overlooked.
So, what’s the real cost of constantly reinventing ourselves in the professional world. Let’s face it—career hopping is both thrilling and terrifying. On one hand, it’s all about exploring new opportunities, challenging yourself, and refusing to settle for anything less than what you deserve. On the other hand, it’s a rollercoaster of uncertainty, where each leap into the unknown comes with its own set of risks and emotional challenges.
One of the biggest pressures driving career hopping is the fear of missing out (FOMO). We’re bombarded with success stories on social media—people landing dream jobs, starting businesses, and seemingly living their best lives. It’s hard not to compare yourself and wonder if you’re falling behind. This can push us to jump from one job to another, always in search of the next big thing, but never truly settling into a role.
But here’s the thing: constantly changing jobs can be exhausting. Each new position comes with a learning curve—new skills to master, new colleagues to understand, and a new work culture to adapt to. It’s a lot to take on, and the stress can quickly add up. The excitement of a fresh start can be overshadowed by the anxiety of having to prove yourself all over again.Moreover, there’s the emotional impact of leaving behind teams and projects that you’ve invested in. It’s not just about the work; it’s about the relationships you build along the way. Saying goodbye to colleagues who’ve become friends can be tough, and starting over in a new environment can feel lonely at times.So, how can we navigate the ups and downs of career hopping without losing ourselves in the process? Here are some tips:
– Reflect on Your Goals: Before making a move, take some time to reflect on your long-term career goals. What do you really want to achieve? Will this new role bring you closer to that goal, or are you just chasing the next shiny thing?
– Embrace Lifelong Learning: Instead of hopping from one job to another, consider ways to grow within your current role. Lifelong learning—whether through courses, certifications, or new projects—can help you stay challenged and fulfilled without the need to constantly change jobs.
– Build a Support System: Career hopping can be emotionally draining, so it’s important to have a support system in place. Whether it’s friends, family, or mentors, having people to talk to about your experiences can make a huge difference.
– Prioritize Mental Health: Don’t forget to take care of your mental health. The stress of career changes can take a toll, so make sure you’re practicing self-care, whether that’s through meditation, exercise, or simply taking time to relax.In the end, career hopping isn’t inherently good or bad—it’s about how you approach it.
By being mindful of the emotional impact and making decisions that align with your long-term goals, you can enjoy the benefits of career hopping without burning out. After all, the journey is just as important as the destination.

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