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DREAM YA KUTOKA KWA BLOCK

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I came across a tweet the other day that said that the worst thing that was brought about by social media is that people no longer want to go through the stages of life. That 23-year-olds want to afford the same lifestyle as 33-year-olds. When they can’t, they think they’ve failed in life. But I don’t think social media is entirely to blame. I believe that society has successfully socialized the youth to go after the American Dream. That anyone, regardless of where you come from, you can be anything you want. I’m here to tell you that is utter rubbish and real life doesn’t work like this.


Because in reality, we are not at an equal level. This isn’t the Amazing Race where we all start at one point and chart the trajectory of our lies. In this race of real life, some people are behind, others way ahead and some, cannot even get to the start line. Yet, every teacher, motivational speaker or religious leader told us repeatedly, that we can be anything we want. To this, I ask; that street child that accosts you on the streets, on your way to work, or as you exit the supermarket, has dreams of becoming a doctor, a pilot, a lawyer, or any other nine-to-five job. Are they ever going to be this? Doesn’t the fact that they live on the streets negate their capability to achieve this? Does it not predispose them to many disadvantages? Will this child ever achieve this? Did you guys read that story that female street children in their teens are spouses to fellow street kids? That they are in a kind of marriage where the males come home to their wives? Mtoto wa thirteen ni wife? Maisha gani haya!

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For you who don’t live on the streets and have a roof over your head, uko afadhali. But I reckon that you too have challenges of your own. When I think of a dilapidated shack, with poor lighting and no water, I think about the Wings To Fly program by Equity Bank. They are dedicated to affording some children if not all, a means to realize their dreams. You probably have friends who were beneficiaries of this program. Not everyone gets an opportunity like this. The rest of us, our parents made it through and it took their blood, sweat and tears. But what happens after we get through all of this na bado hatuna pesa? Isn’t this the proverbial crossroad where we consider crime to solve our problems? Ama niwache tu?


Then again, there’s a smaller group that almost slips through the cracks. The one who’s parents afforded them a comfortable life but they want more. This is where the people with audacity are! They will go out to party, socialize and make deals that will earn them millions. Anaishi two-bedroom Kasarani, ako na this big TV, one hell of a couch, fully stocked fridge but never goes to work. Always on the laptop pale sitting room na ukiuliza anasema he does online writing. Unprovoked lies! This is an individual who dared to risk it all and is reaping the benefits. All I want to know is this, tuliacha kuogopa DCI lini guys?


Finally, I say this, yule ako na mingi ndio anaongezewa juu yake. Which is perhaps why the rich keep getting rich and the poor, even poorer. It is why, as a 23-year-old, I want the life that a 33-year-old has. I am willing to risk it all. I want a lot of money and I want it now. When I think of everything it can do for my family and I, I’m ready to risk it. Have you read that tweet of ata mimi mniingize shughuli za fraud niseme small girl big God? This is where I am. But I am not willing to live dangerously enough to get myself a mubaba, be a stripper or do wash wash. Ama niuze kidney? Anyway, this isn’t about me. How far are you willing to go ndio utoke kwa block? Everybody for himself, God for us all.

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Such is Life: Lessons From the Death of My Auntie

Regardless of how much we grieve , the dead will be dead. they are not coming back. We: the living are the ones left .

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” I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.”

These were the last words as we went around the grave singing the words of 2 Timothy 4:6-8. My heart was full. Guilty was the term. As I placed my flowers on her grave I was apologetic. My heart was honest. Entirely in my life, I have never felt as guilty before. My aunt was gone. No memorable moments, just what she left me: A Prayer Book

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Regardless of how much I regret and cry, Auntie is dead. What can I do? I can learn. Take notes and introspect. Learn (Ai definition) To acquire knowledge or skill in a subject, typically through study or experience. Let’s learn together, shall we?

Spend time with your loved ones. Be it your friend or relative, create time for them. Do not have a boundary that this is blood: even friends can be blood. Love is something no amount of money can purchase. Spend time together. Yes, we are chasing the bag but what is the essence of working for it without using it? I believe money can never be enough. Do not let grief unite you.

Love people regardless. People’s mistakes and shortcomings tend to create rifts between people. If you love somebody, it means you also embrace their shortcomings. We have to be in the capacity to tolerate and solve the problems. I’m not advocating for toxicity but if it is your cup of tea, walk away or seek help.

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Most importantly: how you feel after the loss of a loved one is what is the solution to it. Every business is a result of problems hence creating opportunities. That is the same case here; you control your life. Instead of feeling lowly, pray for strength and live from the lessons.

Rest in Peace Auntie…

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A Glimpse Inside The Life of the Versatile Teddy Munyendo

Teddy Munyendo aka DJ Icon reveals secrets to his success as well as sharing his adulting wisdom.

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Teddy Munyendo otherwise known as DJ Icon is doing the most being the CEO of Iconic Entertainment and Media. The ecstatic Teddy shares his adulting secrets and paints a clear picture of his versatility.

”(laughing) let’s do it bro… I’m all here”

Who is Teddy Munyendo?

I’m Teddy Munyendo and I’m passionate about journalism, multimedia, and the captivating world of music. With a keen eye for storytelling and a knack for creativity, I find myself drawn to the dynamic intersection of these fields.

How would you describe yourself in three words?

I am Ambitious, Determined and self-driven

Interesting, now you are otherwise known as DJ Icon, how did you get yourself into Deejaying?

I began my journey as a DJ at a young age, igniting a lifelong passion. This was fueled by my go-getter attitude. I’ve cultivated a unique blend of skills and experiences that drive me to pursue excellence in every endeavor. Not forgetting that I come from a family that is blessed with talents in music

What do you love about the world of music and deejaying in general?

Where do I start…..
Okay, Emotional Connection: Music has a unique ability to evoke emotions and memories. It can make you feel happy, sad, excited, or nostalgic. Deejaying allows individuals to curate playlists or mixes that resonate with their own emotions and those of their audience.

Creative Expression: Both music and deejaying offer avenues for creative expression. Musicians can compose melodies, write lyrics, and experiment with different sounds, while DJs can mix tracks, create mashups, and develop unique performances.

Still on this what inspires your creativity?

The ability to create mashups and mix the tracks and bring out a different touch of music within a specific genre.

What keeps you going?

I’m so optimistic about my future and I also have a Targeted future, I’m an all-in-one person, which means you have to be hardworking. I’m that one guy who has tried nearly everything so long as I see an opportunity and this comes with so much strictness; for you to be successful you have to be strict with your plans and objectives… So I move to where the money is because there is no day money will locate you, you have to locate it first… In short, being all in one means that I’m a broker, whatever you want I must be able to provide or have a link at whatever cost

Why do you believe that money will never locate you yet you have numerous skills?

First, Money was introduced to bring an end to laziness, nothing much… So it’s hard to own money and you aren’t working. God gave us these skills so that we can work hard and in unison towards a common goal: making money. You can have the skill but you ain’t on your toes, so the money won’t come to you because you have the skill… Remember your work has to be seen for you to get paid… So we work hard to locate money or else we’ll stay or die poor, and remember not everyone poor is not working hard, so we have to work beyond our limits

I can feel the personal touch. Now walk me through your journalism and multimedia journey, how did this get to be?

That’s a fantastic choice! Journalism and media indeed offer a lot of opportunities for creativity and critical thinking. In these fields, you have the chance to explore various topics, tell stories, uncover truths, and engage with diverse audiences. Your creativity can shine through in how you frame stories, select angles, craft headlines, and present information in compelling ways. Keep honing your skills and exploring new ideas, and you’ll find that journalism and media can be incredibly rewarding paths for your creative mind.

You are a versatile person, could you list some of the skills and explain how you got to acquire the skills?

I have diverse skill sets in videography, photojournalism, editing, radio and TV hosting, reporting, and more will undoubtedly serve you well in the field of journalism and media.
Training at Zetech University and through personal training has provided me with a solid foundation, but remember that learning is an ongoing process; I’m still gaining skills

How do you practice and balance all these skills?

I have a group of individuals who help me run the activities. You know you cannot always do it alone. So I take a job at a time and with that, I keep on practicing diverse skills. But remember in multimedia we have different stages, we have pre and post-production. Passing through all these stages helps me practice and sharpen all my skills because they are all included in these stages

What is adulting to you?

Adulting is the journey of becoming self-sufficient, accountable, and capable of handling the demands of adult life.

As a young person, how would you describe the situation of the youth in the country?

For me as much as there’s no employment, on the other hand, there’s something for everyone, it just depends on your level of aggressiveness and hard work, remember also good work matters.

On the same note, how do you think young people can make ends meet?

Networking is the most important thing in making ends meet. Just know someone who knows someone, and then you’re good to go. But remember that knowing someone and you haven’t perfected your skill is a whole mess. Know someone and make sure you’re working hard to prove you can do it

How does one get the skill yet we are competing for Platform?

Any chance you get to learn, learn and acquire a skill then the platform will come

What’s your take on how young people are living?

We are living in tough times, where no one cares about another. Young people are affected by peer pressure, and greed to gain wealth without working hard, so they stop working hard and want to get riches through gambling, scamming or even robbing and it makes things even worse.

What is your secret to success?

There is not much, pray, work smart, know people and stay calm.

One thing we don’t know about Teddy?

Teddy is a cool and God-fearing guy who is interested in anything to do with creativity.

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Fathers Take Lead: Dad,She Doesn’t Like Me.

Father’s should be available for their children ;more so giving an ear to their children’s heartbreak experiences

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”Keke do you love me, Are you riding, say you’ll never ever leave from beside me, ’cause I want ya….” In my feelings with Drake(Rapper) because Muthoni has rejected me. My advances have proven futile as she’ll put it …” you’re not my type.”  My playlist is full of sad songs: Little Mix(girl-pop band) says No More Sad Songs. I am a young teen looking for love and Muthoni has broken my heart. Day and night thinking about her, hurt, broken and feeling low.  Why won’t she acknowledge my love for her?

”Mwanaume unalia aje juu umeachwa na mschana? Aje tu manze, Bro unachoma! ” The society is screaming in my ears. My self-esteem has been going low since my first love rejected me. I have been looking for solace. My friends are mocking me, my circle is making fun. My feelings are not taken into consideration. Where do I get help from? Everyone is deeming me stupid and my masculinity is on edge. Am I a man? Men do not cry especially because of a woman. What do I do?  Back home my father and mother have been married for the longest time and the thought of asking them for advice is only real in my favourite series.

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”If you are not emotionally present for your child , they will withdraw ” Joseph Mithanga -Parent

Isn’t it sad that young men only watch the parents give their sons relationship advice on TV? This madness should stop.  Let’s break it down: Who is a parent? A parent is an individual who has a biological, legal, or social relationship with a child and is responsible for the child’s care, upbringing, and well-being. The well-being is where the parents draw the line. Heartbreaks are part of a child’s growth and deeming it as something small or stupid is risky for both the parent and child.

In the same regard, the father should take the lead. Man to man let’s converse about the heartbreak. A father: a male figure who assumes a nurturing and supportive role in a child’s life (Ai definition), Our African fathers were dimmed as providers. Is it about the providence though? No. A father’s guide to navigating his son’s love life goes a long way in fostering a healthy father-son relationship and giving the boy direction.

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The society is on the neck of young men. The desire to fit in and have a girlfriend exists. It is no longer a tale, it is real. Seeing young men do TikTok videos (or any other social media platform) with their fathers is very impressive. That is a good indicator of a healthy relationship. The phrase ”they only love football and their mothers” is because there was no hand to hold through the tunnel.

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As a young man, I love to be listened to. My feelings are valid. I’m only human, I fall in love.  As an adult, I have a full understanding that my parents will always be regardless of how tall or how broken my voice is. Parents, consider the well-being of your children. From young ones to teenagers, hear them out. Let not depression sink in because of Muthoni or Mike. Take action!

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