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6 ways to conquer the fear of failure

New beginnings can be scary. We know! Don’t worry. You are not alone

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New beginnings can be so scary, mainly because of the uncertainties it comes with and mostly the fear of failure. However, we are here to tell you there is absolutely nothing wrong with failure. It is part of life and so it shouldn’t get the better of you.

Apply for that internship that you’ve always eyed, by all means, go ahead and ask them out if you love their vibe. Just do it! What’s the worst that could happen? Nothing. In fact, you will have learned an experience or two. Here are tips to help you get over the fear of failure.

Face your fears

Regardless of what your weaknesses are, you need to face them and work on them. When you face your fears, you start to improve how you deal with them. The more you face your fears and the more you do what you don’t want to do, the more comfortable you get with the things you fear.

Redefine what failure actually is

Develop a new relationship with failure instead of viewing it as an absolute, life-destroying disaster. Change your perspective so that you see failure as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Think more positively

Fear of failure is often so strong because we focus on the negative outcomes and the obstacles to success. However, this is not the only outcome. Consider the positive outcomes, how you can overcome obstacles, and visualize a path to the goal. Let go of negative assumptions because they heighten the fear of failing.

Setting Goals

Setting a long-term goal can be both inspiring and motivating. Begin with whatever your first small goals are. When you succeed, even in the smallest of ways, your confidence will begin to return.

Have a plan B

Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Having a backup plan gives you more confidence to move ahead and take a calculated risk.

Stay Focused

Focusing on the task at hand at any given time allows you to stay on top of your current actions rather than ruminating on imagined consequences and perceived shortcomings.

This article first appeared on Parents Africa.

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What do you do with your EX’s belongings?

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Breaking up is never easy, especially when it comes to dealing with the remnants of a past relationship. Those items your ex left behind can evoke a mix of emotions—nostalgia, anger, and even confusion. You either want to kick and burn the things they left behind or snuggle and hold onto them for dear life. But fear not! Vibeyetu has just what to do with those things. From donating clothes and shoes to children’s homes to turning hated items into cleaning rags, we’ve got you covered.

1. Donate with Compassion

The Cold Season and Children’s Homes

As the chilly winds and rain overrun Nairobi, consider donating gently used clothing and shoes to children’s homes. These institutions often struggle to provide warm clothing for the kids in their care. Your ex’s old sweater or those sneakers they left behind could make a world of difference to a child shivering in the cold. Your ex might have been an awful person, but at least now that kid is warm. Everything happens for a reason, no??

Why Give Back?

Remember, giving is about more than just the physical item. It’s an act of kindness, a way to spread warmth and love. So, let go of any bitterness and focus on the positive impact your donation can have. Plus, it’s a chance to declutter your space and your heart simultaneously, creating space for the better items your next will leave.

If you have no place in mind, visit Kibra Youth Boxing Initiative (Kibraboxingclub.netlify.app), or drop them off at Colloseum Gymnasium at Adams Arcade to touch a heart and spread warmth.

2. The Cleaning Rag Option

Transforming Hated Items

Now, let’s get a little cheeky. Do you remember that one t-shirt that you hated but for some reason they loved? Yes, you read that right. That old T-shirt they wore everywhere? Perfect for dusting, your shoes have never looked cleaner. The quirky mug they couldn’t stand? Great for wiping down surfaces. It’s like a therapeutic cleansing—both for your home and your soul.

In an interview with UKEwebcast, opinions varied:

  • Absolutely Not: Some staunchly refused to take anything back, emphasizing that gifts should remain gifts, you know a sentiment of that time?
  • Depends on Impact: Others considered the impact on the recipient. If the gift would significantly affect their life, they’d keep it.
  • Sell It: Selling the item was a popular choice. After all, why not turn a painful memory into cash? Consider it heartbreak payment?

Whether you choose to donate or repurpose, remember that these items are more than just objects—they carry memories. So, embrace the warmth of giving, laugh about the cleaning rag option, and let go with grace.

Check out More from the UkeWebcast interview on Vibeyetu.com

Note: No exes were harmed in the making of this article. 😄

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Navigating the Tides of Young Motherhood

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Young motherhood stands as a testament to resilience, hope, and transformation. Drawing insights from the poignant journey of Muriuki Kiae and responses from young mothers across the nation, this article delves into the heart of early parenthood, exploring the challenges, triumphs, and profound growth that come with being a young mother.

For many young mothers like Muriuki Kiae, the journey begins in solitude. The expected support from extended families and communities, once a staple in the Kenyan fabric, has dwindled, leaving many to navigate this path alone. Muriuki recalls, “When I found out I was pregnant, I was determined to breastfeed exclusively for six months. I was unprepared for the complexities that lay ahead.” The absence of a nurturing presence, such as a mother or aunt, exacerbates the challenge, making the support system a crucial pillar for young mothers.

Balancing Roles and Facing Challenges

The dance between motherhood and personal growth is a delicate one. Young mothers often find themselves juggling educational commitments, burgeoning careers, and their evolving social circles. The transition into motherhood can significantly alter relationships and social dynamics, bringing a new set of emotional and mental challenges. As Muriuki poignantly shares, “My baby would cry, and I would cry. We were both navigating a world we were unprepared for, compounded by the isolation and the silence around young motherhood.”

 Emotional Resilience and Mental Health

The emotional landscape of young motherhood is rich with complexity. Feelings of joy are often intertwined with anxiety, stress, and, as in Muriuki’s experience, the shadow of postpartum depression. “I didn’t know postpartum depression,” Muriuki confesses. “I wish I had this information at my fingertips.” Coping mechanisms become lifelines, with many young mothers turning to community support, counseling, and finding solace in shared experiences.

Lessons, Growth, and Reflections : Photo courtesy

Despite the myriad challenges, young motherhood is also a journey of profound learning and growth. It teaches resilience, the art of balance, and the power of seeking and offering support. Muriuki’s advice to young mothers resonates with wisdom, “A healthy mom calls for a healthy baby. A mom has to be in her right mental space to be able to breastfeed and nurture.” The importance of building a support system, both within the family and the community, becomes clear, highlighting the role of partners, friends, and community members in supporting young mothers.

Young mothers are not just nurturing the next generation; they are shaping the future of their communities. Their aspirations for their children and themselves are steeped in hopes of education, well-being, and a society that embraces and supports young mothers. The journey of young motherhood, with all its trials and triumphs, is a message of empowerment. It speaks to the strength of women who, like Muriuki Kiae, navigate the complexities of early parenthood with courage, transforming challenges into stepping stones for growth and change. In the words of Muriuki, a beacon of resilience and hope, “Understand that when your child is breastfeeding, they’re not just feeding; they’re connecting. And in that connection lies the strength to overcome, to grow, and to thrive.”

Young motherhood in Kenya is a journey marked by courage, resilience, and transformation. As society continues to evolve, the collective narrative of these mothers serves as a powerful testament to the importance of support, understanding, and empowerment in shaping a future where every mother and child can thrive.

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Adulting Weekend: Sherehe and Rest this Easter.

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Adulting is truly a second job. It’s like every day is another round in the ring with responsibilities, bills, that ever-present need to sustain a hustle to keep everything afloat and school. So, I’m here wondering, is it just me who’s constantly tired lately?

But hey, the “Adulting Weekend” or as the Christians would prefer to call it; Easter, is just around the corner, and it couldn’t have come at a better time. From Good Friday on March 29th, which is a public holiday, Easter Sunday on March 31st, observed as an observance day and Easter Monday on April 1st, also a public holiday. A time traditionally marked by its spiritual significance and the promise of renewal offers a much-needed break from the relentless pace of adult life. A sort of renewal on its own.

And you know how Kenyans do it whether it’s Easter or not, give us a reason to celebrate, and we’ll turn it into a party. But, as we dive into the Easter sherehe, from the get-togethers to the sacred moments, let’s not forget to hit the pause button. It’s important to take a breather and rejuvenate. To unplug from the daily and truly rest. As we gear up for the lively and go-getter April, this Easter break is the perfect time – a chance to relax, refresh and recharge.

Imagine this Easter as your pit stop in the race of adulting. A time to cool down, refill your tank, and get ready to zoom off when April comes.

Take that long nap without feeling guilty, spend quality time with family and friends without peeking at emails, and allow your mind to wander off script every now and then. These small moments of rest are not just acts of self-care; they’re essential for keeping our inner fires burning.

To all of us navigating this crazy dance of adulting while looking forward to the Easter festivities, let’s make a pact to rest and rejuvenate. It’s in these moments of pause that we find the strength to keep pushing forward. Here’s to a chill Easter and a fired-up Aries Season.

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