Wataonaje? Its Okay to Move On, to Be Happier and for Them to See It

In the aftermath of a fallen friendship or a breakup, the big question is: should you block them on social media? It’s a common impulse to want to erase all traces of someone who may have hurt you or with whom things didn’t end well. However, there’s a compelling argument for keeping that digital door slightly ajar, not enough to let them back in but just enough that if they look, they see. And to ask what Billnas and Rayvanny keep asking, ‘Wataonaje?’.

First, consider the aspect of visibility. By not blocking someone, you allow them a window into your world, one where you continue to grow and thrive without them. This isn’t about nurturing bitterness or showing off; rather, it’s about showcasing your resilience and happiness. When they see how well you’re doing post-breakup or after the friendship has ended, it might prompt some introspection on their part. Perhaps they’ll see what they lost and realize that the issues leading to the fallout were partly, or wholly, their responsibilities.

Allowing an ex-friend or partner to see how you flourish without them can act as a catalyst for personal growth on their part. Sometimes, seeing someone else doing well is a wake-up call that prompts us to reflect on our behaviour and potentially make amends or changes in our lives. If your continued visibility sparks a positive change in them, then keeping the social media lines unblocked serves a higher purpose.

Choosing not to block someone can also be a sign of emotional maturity. It shows that you are secure enough in your own healing process that you don’t need to erase someone’s existence to move forward. This approach can help you transition from any negative feelings towards a place of peace and neutrality. Furthermore, maintaining mutual connections on social media keeps things less awkward for friends or groups shared between you two.

Life is unpredictable, and feelings can evolve. By not blocking someone, you leave open the possibility of reconciliation in the future, should it ever feel appropriate. People grow and change, and the person who might have hurt you once could become a friend or a valuable connection down the road.

Ultimately, the decision to block someone should come down to what you need to heal and move on. However, if you are in a place where you can handle it, keeping them unblocked might just be beneficial. Living well and embracing your happiness without them not only serves as the best kind of personal victory but also stands as a silent testament to your strength and self-worth. Let them see how well you are doing and let that sight remind them of what they might need to change within themselves. Remember, you’re not responsible for their growth, but your own progress might just inspire theirs. So, don’t feel guilty for moving on and being happier—it’s your right and your journey.