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How to overcome post-graduation depression

The first few months or years after graduation are not easy,but proper planning and self drive will be key to your survival.

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Graduating culminates accomplishment of lifetime educational achievements. However it can be a time of transitions into the real world of hustle and work. Life changes from living with parents to living alone and starting to deal with adult challenges.
Here are some of the ways to deal with post graduation depression.

Stay active

Try incorporating exercise into your daily routine and such can be running or walking for set distances. Find a physical activity that you enjoy engaging in and undertake it regularly to keep your mind active and your body fit throughout.

Reflect on your aspirations and goals

With the future uncertain after graduation, it is best to reflect on your personal goals and what you want to achieve over time as life challenges start to set in. Take time and reflect on all your achievements and have a way forward. If possible set new goals and time frame to achieve them and ensure everything you do is towards achieving them.

Have a balanced diet

Depression at times messes with your appetite and you may forget that having good and healthy food is essential for your health. It might be challenging for you, especially if you are used to dining hall foods and now it has become a challenge to cook for yourself and still balance work search or balance work if you have found one. At this point you may forget your body and concentrate more on life pressure which will produce harmful side effects.

Seek professional help

Seeking professional help from qualified persons will help you cope with this new life reality and especially if you feel depressed after graduation ceremony. Sometimes you may resolve to using drugs as a graduate to solve personal post-graduation problems and these drugs may be harmful to your health and fatal to your life in general. Professionals such as psychologists and counselors will go a long way in helping you.

Reach out to friends and family

This is the support system you need in your life especially after a recently graduating. Reach out to some of your former classmates or family members that might also be going through your current life situation. Family is also crucial, in that the older ones also passed through that stage and they can advice you on ways to overcome the post graduation depression stage. Real friends will always understand you and your problems at anytime.

Limit social media use

Regulate the amount of time you spend on the internet. You may get depressed from constantly looking at your peers successes especially your classmates. Limit your social media use to times when you want to relax and learn something new. Constant social media leads to post graduation depression because each time you see your friends are enhancing themselves and you have nothing to show for it.


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Sleepover activities for your girl squad

Though its very rare to ran out of things to do during these nights, somedays you just want to plan beforehand to make sure everything flows.

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Sleepovers have to be one of the best ways to catch up with your girls. You get to spend a whole night with your favorite people, and do whatever you want. Though its very rare to run out of activities to do during these nights, some days you just want to plan beforehand to make sure everything flows. Here are some sleepover activities to keep you and your girls psyched throughout the night:

Prank calls

I got to do this with my roommates once and though almost everyone I called recognized my voice, it was such an amazing time. The joy of telling someone, “its a prank!” and the ripples of laughter that follow is a feeling you want to experience at your sleepover. Come up with ideas for a prank call and find people to try them out on. You can even prank your parents!

Dye each other’s hair

It is not the first time someone has woken up at a sleepover with dyed hair or shaved eyebrows. There’s something about the night that makes bad decisions seem so good. Hope on to this opportunity with your group and dye your hair. After a couple of shots of course. You might wake up and regret it, or love it!

Self-care

Aside from bad decisions, sleepovers are also the best time for self care. Take long baths, do a skin care routine and paint your nails. Pamper yourselves while listening to chill music for the vibes. Go the extra mile and light up some candles!

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Movie night

A great way to ensure a successful sleepover is picking a nice movie for the night. My favorite sleepover movie has to be ‘Girls Trip’ starring Tiffany Haddish. Its a movie about friendship that will have you rolling in laughter. Pick any other movie that will be suitable for the night. It could be horror, comedy, romance and any other genre that will do the trick.

Card and board games

Card and board games give room for healthy competitions and overall fun. They will leave you playing 20 games in a row just to help everyone become a winner. Truth or dare cards also allows you to ask that one think you wanted to know about your friends or just dare them to do the unthinkable. You will definitely enjoy putting them in tight spots with these.

Try a new skill

This is a great way to come up with something together. Try new recipes, have a karaoke moment, make DIYs, braid each other’s hair and basically any new craft you’ve always wanted to try out. Who knows, you might find your talent in these!

Scavenger hunt

It’s not a sleepover without games that keep you on toes to shoo away any feeling of sleep. Scavenger hunts are a fun way to have you running around the house in such of hidden items. You can make it more fun and engaging by declaring that the winner keeps the item.

Make snacks

Keep your mouths chewing throughout the night with homemade snacks. There are some stories that come with being in the kitchen. Make good use of this time to catch up on your lives. New boos, work struggles and all the juicy tea.

To sum up..

Once you are done with one activity, start another one to keep them coming. Make sure to have the most fun and bond over each step.

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Quarter life crisis. Going through the most?

Welcome to the quarter life crisis. I’d love to laugh at the thought of thinking we’d have our whole life figured out by now but that wouldn’t be kind. Even to me.

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Quarter life crisis is similar to mid-life, but now in your 20’s. It is easy to believe that people in this age bracket are not having it tough with the little responsibilities on their desks and time to pick themselves up from failed ventures. The more time and little responsibilities are true but it is also a period they figure out the path they want to take in life. One of the hardest stages of our existence.

You don’t want to mess up and you also don’t want to be doing something you will regret all your life. The pressure of finding a life partner also begins to creep in at this age, making you wish you could rewind time a bit and become a child again.

Welcome to the quarter life crisis. I’d love to laugh at the thought of thinking we’d have our whole life figured out by now but that wouldn’t be kind. Even to me. It is a tough one no lie, but you can brush through it with these few tips I gathered while trying to deal with my own crisis.

Understand that everyone is on their own path

The pressure in this age bracket is unmeasurable. Your peers will start companies, start families, land amazing jobs and basically anything that would just be fantasies to you at that moment. You are human, of course you will feel the pressure. The trick is knowing and understanding that we are on different paths. You will land your job, start your company, and have a family at your own pace.

Surround yourself with people who are doing it

The people you have around during your quarter life crisis will determine if you actually manage it or transition into midlife crisis. You will come to a realization that you are not going through it alone when you interact with others. Surround yourself with people making the moves you only wish on. This helps you learn what they did differently to be where they are. They are the ones who will have you up and informed on new gaps you could venture in.

Self care is key

Do not forget yourself. Once in a while take a step back and recharge from the endless future plans and worries. This helps in your overall mental health. You are still young and will never get these years back. Go out with your friends, sleep in, pamper yourself, and basically anything that will feed into your mental, physical and spiritual well-being.

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Have a role model

Have someone to look up to for motivation. Find successful people in your field of interest whom you can draw lessons from. Find mentors to give you step by step guidelines on how you can maneuver through this phase.

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It can’t all happen in a day

Give yourself time. Set achievable goals that won’t leave you with a burnout trying to reach them. Rest, recharge and get back to it with a fresh mind. Once you understand that everything cannot happen all at once, then your quarter life crisis will be less of a crisis and more of a phase.

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Dating the modern woman

The debate on the position of a woman is one that will never end conclusively. However, we ought to agree that the modern woman is different from what we might have been exposed to previously.

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This is a woman that has broken glass ceiling after glass ceiling and is still willing to break more in her line of interest. Therefore, as a man, how do you manage to relate with a woman who conveys the characteristics below?

Outspoken

The modern woman has been taught to express herself. She wears her heart on her sleeve! Therefore in times of disagreement, she is likely to give you a piece of her mind. This trait she uses positively most of the time, to establish and sustain connections. A man that wishes to associate with such a woman should equal her prowess.

Relentlessly ambitious

A woman who knows what she wants and goes for it can be intimidating to a mediocre man. This is a woman that will set her mind on something and figure out how to achieve it swiftly. Whether home-making duties or career life, the decision lies with her.

Emotional connection

Unlike the popular opinion that the woman’s duty is to bear children for her man, the truth of the matter is that she wants to be with a partner she can connect with emotionally. Emotional connection is a priority to the point, any abuse of contract will lead to a discontinued relationship. Thus, when you decide to engage such a woman, you should be capable of an emotional connection yourself.

Self-awareness

The modern woman has been to school as mention earlier, she has also conducted activities that have enlightened her path. She knows what works for her and what does not. She explores the world for inspiration.

Decisive and informed

This is a woman that can budget, and allocate funds accordingly. She makes an informed decision with the hope of directing her steps to victory. Such a woman, would not take kindly the thoughts of intentional derailment, instead, a partner that comes beside her should be willing to support her goal. This includes her willingness and unwillingness to have children. Such a partner should be very secure in themselves to the point of not being threatened by a woman’s ability to make decisions concerning her life. So many good dreams have been killed by insecure partners, you should strive to be different bro!

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