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6 tips of a healthy dating life

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Dating is synonymous to getting involved romantically with one or more people. It can be with several people because it is simply a stage of learning more about individuals with the hope of graduating into a romantic relationship upon finding a suitable fit. This phase is the open ended part of one’s life to which is supposed to be met with lot’s of adventure and learning.

In light of this, what are some of the things to consider while dating?

Be open to several options

Dating is not a guarantee of marriage, therefore it should be utilized for learning. During this period interact with different people while observing your own patterns when around different individuals. Learn how they influence you and the strengths they bring out in you as well as how they make you feel about your weakness.

Have fun while at it

Do not be too serious about dating. It is the ideal time to explore your likes and opportunities. It is also the right time to enjoy the process that may lead to marriage. Consequently, make use of this time to explore food eateries, tourists spots, and cinemas. Join other dating couples for joint activities

Consider habits more than words

The one mistakes that many inexperienced people make is to take to heart the words of a person they are dating as opposed to their actions. There are so many factors to look out for while dating a person. For instance their consistency, behaviour around other people who may be considered inferior/superior, communication ability, grooming and resourcefulness. Their self-esteem is also something to be considered just in case you are considering marriage.

Limit meetings to public spaces

Limiting meetings to public spaces allows you to see the individual in a different light before sex gets in the equation thus impairing your judgement. That is why public spaces come in handy, because they create the ideal environment by bringing several elements to play like service providers (waiters) while at the same time eliminating the coziness that comes with isolation.

Ask critical questions during the dating phase

Learn more about your date. Get to know about their interests, goals, childhood and even the company they keep. Allow them to take you to their favorite restaurants, and recreational spots; this will give you a glimpse into their personality. This information will warrant your final decision for a life long partner.

Do it from a point of knowledge rather than ignorance

They say ignorance has no defense. Remember this when you decide to start dating so you can inform yourself as much as possible. Make a point of knowing yourself first by carrying out a personal SWOT analysis. This will help you know the extend to which you can go in your journey of dating. It will also help you discern which one of the above pieces of advice are useful or not. Conducting a little background check on the person you intend to spend time with is important too. Involve the friend of your dates so you can learn some traits about them. It is the only way of eliminating pain and disappointments that come with making uninformed decisions.

All in all, trust the process, all the best and happy dating!

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4 things we need to normalise before the end of 2021!

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A lot has been said about some of these things but it is time we shed them off. Most of these things are not cast on stones but are deeply rooted in us.  Let us work towards normalising them.

1. Clubbing in sneakers for ladies

After a tough week of hustling, adulting, and paying bills, the weekend is here and you need to loosen up, go clubbing, and have fun. Question is, does it always have to be in heels? You probably already use your heels during workdays. Ditch them and go for something comfier.

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2. Male grooming

For the longest time, we have been uptight when we see men getting serious about their grooming. It is about time we do away with the labeling of well-groomed men.

And for the men, getting a pedicure and using face masks does not make you any less of a man.

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3. Calling out rogue service providers

It is about time we put an end to staying quiet whenever any service provider treats us awfully. Routine is simple- let them know you don’t like how they are treating you and if need be, contact the customer care office.

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4. Commercialising our passions

We don’t really need white-collar jobs to get things going. With the current unemployment situation in the country, the least you can do is find something to put food on your table. Commercialise that passion.

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COVID-19 and your mental health

One and a half years down the line, the world is still battling COVID-19.

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The pandemic has devasted a lot of people especially young adults, some have lost their loved ones while others have lost their jobs. As a result, most of us experience loneliness, anxiety, depression, stress, and also nervous breakdowns.

As devastating as COVID-19 has been, the issue of its effects on mental health may last longer than the disease itself and that is why it’s important to learn self-care strategies and get the care you need to cope.

Below are some of the self-care strategy tips that can help improve your mental health.

Take care of your body both Mental/Emotional and Spiritual health

This is a state of well-being in which an individual realizes his/her potential while navigating the stresses and difficulties of life.

You need to remain calm and focused while working things out with respect and unconditional intent to find a solution. Ultimately your personal character; personal strength and courage will evolve. Attaining this requires you to make healthy choices in terms of your nutrition, relationships, social contact, work, and leisure activities.

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Avoid peer pressure to taking drugs.

Peer pressure! We all go through it in our lives, sometimes it has positive impacts. However, if you’re a victim of negative peer pressure it can have a negative impact on your mental health during this time of the pandemic.

Be very particular about the peers you have; just have those who fit well in your ideal thinking about career options, hobbies, and interests.

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Limit screen time and take time to relax and recharge.

Set aside time for yourself. Even a few minutes of quiet time can be refreshing and help to quiet your mind and reduce anxiety. Many people benefit from practices such as deep breathing, yoga, and meditation. Listen to music or podcasts, read a book, or go out with your friends while following the preventive measures for COVID-19. Just do something that will help you relax.

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How to use Zoom like a pro

Working from home has become the new normal after, well, Covid. All we need to do is embrace it and use it to our advantage.

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Almost everything is held virtually, and this goes for conferences, meetings and seminars too. This doesn’t have to stop you from acing that presentation or interview because applications like Zoom came through for such moments. Now having Zoom is one thing, but knowing how to use its features like a pro is the key to unlocking successful calls.

Screen-sharing

This feature is a great plus for your presentations. You get to share with other members in the call a PowerPoint you created, or a document and even videos. Some have watched a full movie during those virtual parties thanks to this feature right here.

You can access it by clicking the Share screen icon in the toolbar at the bottom of the meeting screen. Now take note that once you click this option, everyone in the call can see what you are sharing. So mute those notifications, clear your tabs, and you are good to go.

How to Share a Screen on Zoom

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Recording

Recently, I conducted a virtual interview for an article I was writing on sexual health advocacy. Recording the whole call came in handy during the writing process for references and quotations. Just like we take records of important events and meetings, Zoom also allows you to do this and have an archive to get back to. On top of the call screen, there’s a recording button which you can click on to save the whole meeting to your device.

Background

If you have to get on a quick call but is worried about your physical background, you can virtually transport yourself to a background of your choice! It could be in space, the beach, an office, and many other options which Zoom avails to its participants.

Simply go to setting, click on Virtual background, and select or upload a background of your choice. Companies have also customized backgrounds to fit that of their company logo which makes it have a more professional look.

How to change your Zoom background | Tom's Guide

Breakout rooms

You can create breakout rooms within a call to create smaller group discussions. For example, if the whole office is in call, each department can have their own rooms to discuss an agenda then get back to the main room for pitches or feedback. Alternatively, this feature is perfect for game nights where the call members each have a team. It brings out the competitiveness and teamwork, making the games successful.

As the meeting host, you can start a breakout room by clicking Account management then Account settings. Under the Meeting tab, click Breakout Room. From there, you can assign participants to their respective rooms.

Beauty filter

If you thought beauty filter was on Instagram and Snapchat only, you thought wrong. Zoom has it too! This is perfect for the days you just need a little touch up to bring out that virtual glow. The ‘Touch Up My Appearance’ feature can be found on the settings button, under video settings. Just like any other beauty filter, it makes your appearance look smooth, and dewy for your calls.

 

 

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