Dating is synonymous to getting involved romantically with one or more people. It can be with several people because it is simply a stage of learning more about individuals with the hope of graduating into a romantic relationship upon finding a suitable fit. This phase is the open ended part of one’s life to which is supposed to be met with lot’s of adventure and learning.
In light of this, what are some of the things to consider while dating?
Be open to several options
Dating is not a guarantee of marriage, therefore it should be utilized for learning. During this period interact with different people while observing your own patterns when around different individuals. Learn how they influence you and the strengths they bring out in you as well as how they make you feel about your weakness.
Have fun while at it
Do not be too serious about dating. It is the ideal time to explore your likes and opportunities. It is also the right time to enjoy the process that may lead to marriage. Consequently, make use of this time to explore food eateries, tourists spots, and cinemas. Join other dating couples for joint activities
Consider habits more than words
The one mistakes that many inexperienced people make is to take to heart the words of a person they are dating as opposed to their actions. There are so many factors to look out for while dating a person. For instance their consistency, behaviour around other people who may be considered inferior/superior, communication ability, grooming and resourcefulness. Their self-esteem is also something to be considered just in case you are considering marriage.
Limit meetings to public spaces
Limiting meetings to public spaces allows you to see the individual in a different light before sex gets in the equation thus impairing your judgement. That is why public spaces come in handy, because they create the ideal environment by bringing several elements to play like service providers (waiters) while at the same time eliminating the coziness that comes with isolation.
Ask critical questions during the dating phase
Learn more about your date. Get to know about their interests, goals, childhood and even the company they keep. Allow them to take you to their favorite restaurants, and recreational spots; this will give you a glimpse into their personality. This information will warrant your final decision for a life long partner.
Do it from a point of knowledge rather than ignorance
They say ignorance has no defense. Remember this when you decide to start dating so you can inform yourself as much as possible. Make a point of knowing yourself first by carrying out a personal SWOT analysis. This will help you know the extend to which you can go in your journey of dating. It will also help you discern which one of the above pieces of advice are useful or not. Conducting a little background check on the person you intend to spend time with is important too. Involve the friend of your dates so you can learn some traits about them. It is the only way of eliminating pain and disappointments that come with making uninformed decisions.
All in all, trust the process, all the best and happy dating!
Sleepover activities for your girl squad
Though its very rare to ran out of things to do during these nights, somedays you just want to plan beforehand to make sure everything flows.
Sleepovers have to be one of the best ways to catch up with your girls. You get to spend a whole night with your favorite people, and do whatever you want. Though its very rare to run out of activities to do during these nights, some days you just want to plan beforehand to make sure everything flows. Here are some sleepover activities to keep you and your girls psyched throughout the night:
I got to do this with my roommates once and though almost everyone I called recognized my voice, it was such an amazing time. The joy of telling someone, “its a prank!” and the ripples of laughter that follow is a feeling you want to experience at your sleepover. Come up with ideas for a prank call and find people to try them out on. You can even prank your parents!
Dye each other’s hair
It is not the first time someone has woken up at a sleepover with dyed hair or shaved eyebrows. There’s something about the night that makes bad decisions seem so good. Hope on to this opportunity with your group and dye your hair. After a couple of shots of course. You might wake up and regret it, or love it!
Aside from bad decisions, sleepovers are also the best time for self care. Take long baths, do a skin care routine and paint your nails. Pamper yourselves while listening to chill music for the vibes. Go the extra mile and light up some candles!
A great way to ensure a successful sleepover is picking a nice movie for the night. My favorite sleepover movie has to be ‘Girls Trip’ starring Tiffany Haddish. Its a movie about friendship that will have you rolling in laughter. Pick any other movie that will be suitable for the night. It could be horror, comedy, romance and any other genre that will do the trick.
Card and board games
Card and board games give room for healthy competitions and overall fun. They will leave you playing 20 games in a row just to help everyone become a winner. Truth or dare cards also allows you to ask that one think you wanted to know about your friends or just dare them to do the unthinkable. You will definitely enjoy putting them in tight spots with these.
Try a new skill
This is a great way to come up with something together. Try new recipes, have a karaoke moment, make DIYs, braid each other’s hair and basically any new craft you’ve always wanted to try out. Who knows, you might find your talent in these!
It’s not a sleepover without games that keep you on toes to shoo away any feeling of sleep. Scavenger hunts are a fun way to have you running around the house in such of hidden items. You can make it more fun and engaging by declaring that the winner keeps the item.
Keep your mouths chewing throughout the night with homemade snacks. There are some stories that come with being in the kitchen. Make good use of this time to catch up on your lives. New boos, work struggles and all the juicy tea.
To sum up..
Once you are done with one activity, start another one to keep them coming. Make sure to have the most fun and bond over each step.
Quarter life crisis. Going through the most?
Welcome to the quarter life crisis. I’d love to laugh at the thought of thinking we’d have our whole life figured out by now but that wouldn’t be kind. Even to me.
Quarter life crisis is similar to mid-life, but now in your 20’s. It is easy to believe that people in this age bracket are not having it tough with the little responsibilities on their desks and time to pick themselves up from failed ventures. The more time and little responsibilities are true but it is also a period they figure out the path they want to take in life. One of the hardest stages of our existence.
You don’t want to mess up and you also don’t want to be doing something you will regret all your life. The pressure of finding a life partner also begins to creep in at this age, making you wish you could rewind time a bit and become a child again.
Welcome to the quarter life crisis. I’d love to laugh at the thought of thinking we’d have our whole life figured out by now but that wouldn’t be kind. Even to me. It is a tough one no lie, but you can brush through it with these few tips I gathered while trying to deal with my own crisis.
Understand that everyone is on their own path
The pressure in this age bracket is unmeasurable. Your peers will start companies, start families, land amazing jobs and basically anything that would just be fantasies to you at that moment. You are human, of course you will feel the pressure. The trick is knowing and understanding that we are on different paths. You will land your job, start your company, and have a family at your own pace.
Surround yourself with people who are doing it
The people you have around during your quarter life crisis will determine if you actually manage it or transition into midlife crisis. You will come to a realization that you are not going through it alone when you interact with others. Surround yourself with people making the moves you only wish on. This helps you learn what they did differently to be where they are. They are the ones who will have you up and informed on new gaps you could venture in.
Self care is key
Do not forget yourself. Once in a while take a step back and recharge from the endless future plans and worries. This helps in your overall mental health. You are still young and will never get these years back. Go out with your friends, sleep in, pamper yourself, and basically anything that will feed into your mental, physical and spiritual well-being.
Have a role model
Have someone to look up to for motivation. Find successful people in your field of interest whom you can draw lessons from. Find mentors to give you step by step guidelines on how you can maneuver through this phase.
It can’t all happen in a day
Give yourself time. Set achievable goals that won’t leave you with a burnout trying to reach them. Rest, recharge and get back to it with a fresh mind. Once you understand that everything cannot happen all at once, then your quarter life crisis will be less of a crisis and more of a phase.
Dating the modern woman
The debate on the position of a woman is one that will never end conclusively. However, we ought to agree that the modern woman is different from what we might have been exposed to previously.
This is a woman that has broken glass ceiling after glass ceiling and is still willing to break more in her line of interest. Therefore, as a man, how do you manage to relate with a woman who conveys the characteristics below?
The modern woman has been taught to express herself. She wears her heart on her sleeve! Therefore in times of disagreement, she is likely to give you a piece of her mind. This trait she uses positively most of the time, to establish and sustain connections. A man that wishes to associate with such a woman should equal her prowess.
A woman who knows what she wants and goes for it can be intimidating to a mediocre man. This is a woman that will set her mind on something and figure out how to achieve it swiftly. Whether home-making duties or career life, the decision lies with her.
Unlike the popular opinion that the woman’s duty is to bear children for her man, the truth of the matter is that she wants to be with a partner she can connect with emotionally. Emotional connection is a priority to the point, any abuse of contract will lead to a discontinued relationship. Thus, when you decide to engage such a woman, you should be capable of an emotional connection yourself.
The modern woman has been to school as mention earlier, she has also conducted activities that have enlightened her path. She knows what works for her and what does not. She explores the world for inspiration.
Decisive and informed
This is a woman that can budget, and allocate funds accordingly. She makes an informed decision with the hope of directing her steps to victory. Such a woman, would not take kindly the thoughts of intentional derailment, instead, a partner that comes beside her should be willing to support her goal. This includes her willingness and unwillingness to have children. Such a partner should be very secure in themselves to the point of not being threatened by a woman’s ability to make decisions concerning her life. So many good dreams have been killed by insecure partners, you should strive to be different bro!
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