Getting back together with an ex can be tempting even when you know it might not be the best move. Therefore, you should really evaluate before you make the decision to get back together. There’s a reason why you two broke up in the first place, right?
For starters, many people find themselves in a toxic relationship which can take a toll on someone’s mental, emotional and even physical well-being.Here are other reasons why you should not get back together:
Fights and arguments all the time
Healthy relationships don’t lack arguments from time to time. However, if you guys were always fighting or arguing, then it’s time to evaluate whether you really need to rekindle that relationship. There’s no reason why you should be so unhappy in life all the time. Find the courage to walk away with the belief that there’s someone better for you out there, because there is and don’t get back together with an ex.
Adopting bad qualities
If they influenced you to engage in harmful activities that you were avoiding before, then that’s a red flag. It could be drinking, smoking, being lazy all the time, cheating or even stealing. If your positive qualities have reduced and negative ones increased because of being in that relationship, then that’s not progressive development. A good relationship makes people become better versions of themselves.
If you got to the point where you needed to ask for permission to meet friends and relatives or do simple things, then you were in a toxic relationship. Controlling partners act like they are in charge of your life and make all life decisions for you. Controlling partners are insecure and selfish most of the time. They use threats to force you to do what they want. Don’t get back together with your ex if that was the case.
It’s really sad to be in a relationship where there’s no trust between the partners. Trust is a strong foundation of healthy relationships. You have to trust that your partner will be there through thick and thin, they’ll be faithful and many other things. If you completely did not trust your partner and they didn’t trust you, then will you really ever be at peace? Do you want to live that way forever? It will become exhausting and draining after a while.
Lupita pens heartfelt tribute to Chadwick Boseman
Actress Lupita Nyongo has come out to pay tribute to Black Panther co-star Chadwick Boseman who died from colon cancer aged 43 on Friday, 28th August.
This is the first time the actress who played King T’Challa’s love interest Nakia is addressing the death of her co-star. In a post on her Instagram page, Lupita eulogised Chadwick as a man who had a quiet and powerful presence and revealed her struggle with coming to terms with his death saying ‘I am struggling to think and speak about my friend Chadwick in past tense.’
She also added that his death ‘doesn’t make sense’ and went on to divulge how working with him on ground-breaking Black Panther movie had made an impact on her.
Furthermore, the actress and author showered praise on Boseman for always having the right energy, saying “I am aware that we are all mortal, but you come across some people in life that possess a immortal energy, that seem like they have existed before, that are exactly where they are supposed to always be – here! … that seem ageless…. Chadwick was one of those people.”
“He was absorbent. Agile. He set the bar high by working with a generosity of spirit, creating an ego-free environment by sheer example, and he always had a warm gaze and a strong embrace to share. His large hands would descend on my shoulders and give them a squeeze that relieved me of the tensions I did not realize I was holding. Chadwick’s hands were strong enough to carry the weight of the film and free enough to clasp mine when I needed it,” said part of the post.
Her tribute has been met with overwhelming support from other celebrities and fans of the highly acclaimed superhero movie that resonated with black audiences worldwide. Chadwick had been diagnosed with colon cancer in 2016 and had played some of his most iconic roles including Black panther while silently battling the disease before succumbing to it in late August.
News of Chadwick’s death was received with worldwide grief for fans of the actor and Marvel comics fans collectively with Twitter declaring news of his death as the most retweeted tweet ever.
Read the full tribute on her post below:
6 top tips for aspiring content creators
With the constantly increasing use and invention of digital communication platforms, more people are taking it upon themselves to create content for global consumption. This has given rise to a whole new line of work in content creation, especially on social media, with people reaping huge across all platforms. Now,it is so much easier to pick up a smart phone and make money off of it. If you are an aspiring content creator, here are tips to springboard you and your content to the online masses:
1. Combine storytelling and story-making
Whether your niche or favourite platform is Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube or tik-tok, the one thing that cuts across is that unique content tends to attract more people. Instead of waiting for other content creators to come up with popular trends for you to ride on, create yours. Your uniqueness is what will sell you whether on your blog, YouTube channel, tik-tok or IG page. For instance, if you like DIY content, instead of replicating what you saw online, come up with a unique project that even a novice can do.
2. Be on the lookout for interesting stories
Tied to the first one, another quality that even major outlets require is a ‘nose for news’. This simply means that you have to be constantly aware of what is going on around you as anything, if given a proper spin can make for an interesting story. Find the oddities of life and keep sharing them and in time people will associate you with interesting content. The more numbers you build up online, the more brands will be willing to work with you.
3. Learn to repackage content
Sometimes, you may not be the one to create the viral trend, such as Dolly Parton’s challenge but you sure can reap from it by repackaging it. This simply means you can come up with a new way to keep the trend alive for whichever platform, for example:
On YouTube: Reacting to celebrities’ Dolly Parton Challenge, Recreating the Dolly Parton challenge with my sister/brother etc
On your blog: Here the the top 10 Dolly Parton Challenge contenders, 5 tips for the best profiles on social media from the Dolly Parton challenge, Here are the funniest reactions from tweeps about the #DollyPartonChallenge etc
4. Ride on *some* trends
Yes, not everything is for you or suits your brand so refrain from jumping on things without doing due diligence. However, sometimes there are online trends that are just impossible to miss and riding on them actually makes you relatable. Riding on other trends also shows that you are aware of your environment or that of your online community and the things that matter to them.
5. Harness the power of social media
The content creators who reap the most from this line of work usually are on any platform you can think of. For instance, some share their YouTube content on other platforms such as Instagram as teasers to direct you to their channel. In this digital age, it would be a grave mistake for content creators to not maximise on social media to grow an audience or share their work. There are also so many free and paid apps that make work so much easier for content creators so be sure to use them.
6. Share your work
While you most certainly will get better with time, do not be reluctant about sharing your work now as it is. In the future, it will be an indicator of your growth and other content creators will be inspired by your trajectory. Additionally, you cannot build a formidable presence online if people do not know about you. Consistently sharing your work makes people look forward to your content.
Ismael Oluoch: Kenyan artist who draws breathtaking portraits
From teaching himself how to draw portraits to selling his art to bigwigs in the entertainment industry such as rapper Octopizzo, Ismael Oluoch is a testament that dreams do come true. Ismael, also known as Meezy_ke, is
When 23-year-old Ismael began drawing portraits of people, he did not anticipate that one day celebrities in Kenya would be buying his work. However, persistence, hard work and passion has opened doors that would have otherwise been impossible to open. He shares his journey to becoming a great artist.
“I did not begin by drawing portraits. In primary school, I used to draw cars and cartoons out of passion. However, when I joined high school, I saw a very impressive portrait drawn by a classmate and my interest was piqued. After that, I began teaching myself how to draw portraits,” he says.
Ismael admits that when he completed high school, he found it difficult to secure employment as his grades were low which led him to turning to his passion for sustenance.
“I started drawing people, both friends and celebrities, and selling the portraits. Soon enough celebrities took notice. Khaligraph Jones, Octopizzo, Nadia Mukami, GMoney, Dr. Kingori, Shaq the Youngin and ZJ Heeno are among those who have bought my work,” Ismael states. He also adds that the prices of his portraits start from Ksh 3000 depending on the size of the portrait drawn and the hours put into each work.
Kind and unkind celebs
The main goal of artists is to get high-paying clients or celebrities to buy their products and endorse their brands. However, approaching them is not always as easy as it seems. This is because you never know how they will react. This is no different in Ismael’s case.
“I’ve drawn many public figures since I started professionally in 2017 and shared my creation with some of them. Some have been supportive and even bought my portraits. However, other artists were not so receptive but I did not take it to heart,” he says.
Additionally, Ismael has had the chance to present his work to rapper Octopizzo, rapper Khaligraph Jones and host of Wicked Edition Dr. King’ori. However, it’s not been smooth sailing.
“Art isn’t appreciated that much in Kenya. Some art materials are not found locally and hawkers sell prints at cheaper prices. This makes artists to lower their prices because it’s hard to explain to a client the difference between an original artwork and a print. Sometimes we are asked to pay for interviews,” he admits.
There are also a lot of naysayers who discourage passionate souls from following their heart’s desire. Naturally, every famous or successful person has had a few of those but Ismael insists that it’s best to ignore them.
Apart from drawing portraits, he reveals that he has other creative businesses on the side that also generate income. “I paint creative designs on shoes and clothes as well as wall murals and kiosks. Usually, I get my clients through referrals or social media,” says the 23-year-old.
Now a force to reckon with, he also advises anyone interested in art to follow their passion.
“Do not listen to anyone, not even your family members. Follow your heart and put in the work as well. People only become supporters after they see the business has started becoming successful. Do what you love and don’t stop regardless of failures along the way. They should serve as lessons instead,” he concludes.
More of his work can be found on social media through the handle @meezy_ke.